To start any new habit only takes 21 days, that also goes for breaking any bad ones we may have. If you are still mooning over your ex and obsessing over every little thing that went wrong - STOP right now!!! It is totally natural to feel heart broken for a long time after a breakup but we have to get up and get the road to feeling well again. So get out of those ugly sweatpants and put away the junk food, it’s time to start some new habits and try something new to heal your broken heart!
First of all we need to stop some of the bad habits we are currently doing. Are you constantly checking Facebook or Twitter to see what is going on in your ex’s life? With the friends you still share, are you still bringing him up and asking about them? We want to know if our ex feels the same hurt we do, just as we want them to miss us as much as we miss them. In order to heal our broken hearts we need to make a great effort to break these bad habits. So, pinch yourself whenever you feel the need to bring up your ex or go online to check up on them. Not lightly but hard! You can to stop these bad habits by making yourself aware of them.
Now that our arms are all red from pinching ourselves we need to start some new habits to help distract us from the ones we are trying to break. In order to feel good about ourselves again so our first new habit will be to complement ourselves. This may feel strange at first but you need to write down 10 really good things about yourself. Here are some examples to help get you going:
10 things I like about me:
- I really look good in…
- I have great…
- I’m really good at…
- I really love my…
- One of my best skills is/are…
- I’m very…
- I’m also very…
- My … is/are my best feature.
- I’ve very good at…
- My … really kicks butt!
You are now going to begin everyday by looking in the mirror and repeat these 10 thing like you mean it! No squinting up your face either! You will begin to believe it the more you say and you will start to once again like who you are.
Is there something that you have always wanted to try? Cause next we are going to try something new! Running, rock climbing, creative writing or learning to cook? Choose something fun, you will not only learn a new skill but you will be forced to meet new people. These people will get to know the “real you”, not the “you” that you were with your ex.
Trying something new and beginning new habits will give you something else to concentrate on beside what is going on with your ex. For 21 days try these 2 things and see how much better you begin to feel. Are you feeling more confident? Are you thinking about your ex less often? We are just beginning to retrain how we feel about ourselves and healing our broken heart takes time.
